I have a book suggestion for all of you that I wish I had read before I had kids. A friend of mine is getting her masters in counseling degree from George Fox University and read this book as required reading for one of her classes. My friend knows me well and knows that I have questions regarding what affect this particular era in time will have on the children we are raising. Never before in history have families been so financially well off. Children of the nineties and the new Millennium are indulged, spoiled, and carry a sense of entitlement into all of life’s circumstances.
The book……The Price of Privilege, written by Madeline Levine, Ph.D. The subtitle is, How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids.
Don’t let the title throw you off. Privilege doesn’t have to mean affluence, though most of you reading would likely be considered affluent as compared to the national average.
As I have devoured the book I have been struck with a sense of responsibility to share it as a resource with any and all parents I know. It is simply a good read for any stage of parenting and quite enlightening when it comes to self evaluation. Don’t read it if you are not willing to evaluate yourself and your style of parenting. Do read it if you are in the midst of raising up kids and want to do your best to launch them into the world with a healthy sense of self and the world around them. This is not a Christian book and honestly every other parenting book I have read has been. It has been refreshing to get a look at what a family counselor says about kids today and what they have to say to her in counseling sessions.
I am notating the book as I read it because it is so chalk full of great insight. Two of the most insightful observations from the book are:
“While many of these teens are verbal and psychologically aware, they don’t seem to know themselves very well. They lack practical skills for navigating out in the world; they can be easily frustrated or impulsive, and they have trouble anticipating the consequences of their actions. They are overly dependent on the opinions of parents, teachers, coaches and peers and frequently rely on others, not only to pave the way on difficult tasks but to grease the wheels of everyday life as well.” (p.5-6)
“Indulged, coddled, pressured, and micromanaged on the outside, my young patients appeared to be inadvertently deprived of the opportunity to develop an inside.” (p. 8 )
Read it, you will be glad you did!
PS It’s selling right now for $10.04 on Amazon.com.