the power of suggestion

I have a book suggestion for all of you that I wish I had read before I had kids.  A friend of mine is getting her masters in counseling degree from George Fox University and read this book as required reading for one of her classes.  My friend knows me well and knows that I have questions regarding what affect this particular era in time will have on the children we are raising.  Never before in history have families been so financially well off.  Children of the nineties and the new Millennium are indulged, spoiled, and carry a sense of entitlement into all of life’s circumstances.

The book……The Price of Privilege, written by Madeline Levine, Ph.D.  The subtitle is, How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids.

Don’t let the title throw you off.  Privilege doesn’t have to mean affluence, though most of you reading would likely be considered affluent as compared to the national average.

As I have devoured the book I have been struck with a sense of responsibility to share it as a resource with any and all parents I know.  It is simply a good read for any stage of parenting and quite enlightening when it comes to self evaluation.  Don’t read it if you are not willing to evaluate yourself and your style of parenting.  Do read it if you are in the midst of raising up kids and want to do your best to launch them into the world with a healthy sense of self and the world around them.  This is not a Christian book and honestly every other parenting book I have read has been.  It has been refreshing to get a look at what a family counselor says about kids today and what they have to say to her in counseling sessions.

I am notating the book as I read it because it is so chalk full of great insight.  Two of the most insightful observations from the book are:

“While many of these teens are verbal and psychologically aware, they don’t seem to know themselves very well.  They lack practical skills for navigating out in the world; they can be easily frustrated or impulsive, and they have trouble anticipating the consequences of their actions.  They are overly dependent on the opinions of parents, teachers, coaches and peers and frequently rely on others, not only to pave the way on difficult tasks but to grease the wheels of everyday life as well.” (p.5-6)

“Indulged, coddled, pressured, and micromanaged on the outside, my young patients appeared to be inadvertently deprived of the opportunity to develop an inside.” (p. 8 )

Read it, you will be glad you did!


PS  It’s selling right now for $10.04 on


Comments on: "the power of suggestion" (3)

  1. lisa sequeira said:

    I can’t wait to talk with you about the book and hear all your thoughts!!!

    Thanks for digesting it and getting the word out there!

  2. Jill Cain said:

    Thanks for the suggestion! Sounds like it’s very interesting and a good read! I see this in our culture as well and am so concerned about the future generations. Somehow we need to impress on our kids that it’s not all about them. I just hate all the girly stuff right now that says stuff like “It’s all about me.” And yet how do you do this? I have tried to talk to Jonathan about how he is so much more fortunate that many of the kids in this world. How could he possibly comprehend this though? I was thinking we should adopt a family this year and take them gifts. This may help him visually see it a bit more. We do Operation Christmas Child each year, but he can’t see the kids they go to. Anyway, thanks, Angie! I miss seeing you regularly!

  3. Jill,
    Thanks for your input, I appreciate your thoughts. You are on the right track, when you as a family decide to model generosity and compassion you are telling your children that you value those less fortunate. And you are giving them resources for the future of ways they can help and care for others. Great job!! Angie

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